I've been thinking a lot about this stalker's letter. Whether I should be assertive and have boundaries by saying: "Do not contact me again." To stand up for myself and tell her to get off my dick. To threaten a restraining order. To make myself 1000% clear in the hopes that, this time, she'll actually listen and respect my emphatic NO.
But I think it's better in this situation not to give her the pleasure of a response at all, since she is so good at imaginatively reinterpreting my previous NO as a secret romantic message, intended for a mere acquaintance from a decade ago that I barely remembered until her creepy 11 paragraph "love" letter.
I think it's best, and safest, to give her absolutely zero crumbs of communication whatsoever, and leave it at that, and hope she gives up and finds someone else to harass.
After all, she is the one who blocked me and all my friends when I said I wanted to keep it professional. Fucking someone I barely know isn't something I do. I ran that organization with pure intentions of mutual support and had no ulterior sexual motives. It was discouraging to discover that she had zero interest in the organization if sex wasn't included. It was rude and unnecessary to block every young artist in the group as punishment for not getting her way. To her, they were just collateral damage.
She ditched her responsibility as co-organizer and cut contact without notice, leaving me to run an organization alone. She's also the reason I subsequently gave up and stepped down. So I find it offensive that she thinks she can just come back whenever and do it again. The entitlement! Hard pass.
This is something abusers do. Arrogantly overestimating themselves, thinking I've been sitting around eagerly awaiting her return. You didn't want to communicate, remember? You made your bed, now lie in it.
I think she'd love a response from me. She wants attention, even if it's negative attention. I don't owe her shit. She wanted silence. So I'm sticking with that.
12:39 p.m. - 2021-09-27