Helping my dad and his wife led to some very deep meaningful conversations and I was thanked so profusely by both of them and now his wife wants to gift me some very special chinese herbalism mushroom stuff in gratitude for helping them. She said thanks to my help she can finally sleep tonight, and my dad told me I'm spiritually gifted. They really laid it on thick lol.
It ended up being good for me too because it felt good to reduce their stress. It made me feel helpful rather than powerless regarding death, gave me a little dose of meaning/purpose, and a little respite from my own grief.
Every time I resolved something or reassured them I did a few harp glissandos for dramatic effect to make them laugh and lighten the air. Turns out I'm actually be kind of good at this grief counseling stuff.
Among other things I drafted a letter for them because they're in shock and overwhelmed, and they liked what I wrote so much. They said it was succinct but very tactful, and said everything that needed to be said, and they said I should be a lawyer. Ha. It was an easy task and I didn't expect so much gratitude from them in return. My dad took notes, copying my letter format word for word, as if copying my homework. It was endearing. I'm glad I was able to help.
I hope it gives the daughters closure too. I'm glad that I was the one who wrote the letter to them, because I really wanted to be sensitive to the fact that the deceased was their abuser. I think I accomplished that, as well as taking care of legalities so everyone can have some peace.
I'm feeling much better in general lately. Giving myself a gold star for today.
6:56 p.m. - 2022-12-09