So I think my dad has dementia. :(
He's been going nutso on people at random with increasing frequency, embarrassing himself yelling at bank tellers, making scenes, having problems with neighbors, doctors, insurance agents, gosh everyone. He doesn't usually come at me aggressively like that so I was surprised when finally I was the one with the target on my forehead.
In a way it's justice for my mom that my dad can't handle only a couple months staying home without working. My mom toughed it out for almost a lifetime, while also cooking him dinner and cleaning his house and raising his child. And even then, she didn't act as crazy as him until I was almost grown.
He judged her a lot for her cigarettes and for her crazy. I guess when he walks HALF a mile in her shoes he can't handle it. (He still doesn't cook his own meals or clean his own house.) Funny. I wonder if he reflects on this. Probably not.
He said she'd go crazy when she ran out of cigarettes. Work was my dad's cigarettes, and he just ran out.
Now I can see, both my parents had the same problems -- when under similar conditions. My mom was just a lot mentally stronger. Now that is clear as day.
I shouldn't think of this as justice for my mother, but it kind of is. I almost want to call her: "Hey guess who's struggling to do half of what you did for a lifetime, for less than two months."
What's that daddy? Staying at home is unfulfilling? You don't say...Well now's a great time to try a new line of work. How about vacuuming? Cooking perhaps?
1:12 p.m. - 2021-10-10