I wish so many people weren't one of two extremes, either full of self-inflicting shame and shaming others, or the opposite side of the same coin, rebelling against shame by becoming extreme sex addicts because they were raised on religion that taught them sex is shameful and now sex is the only thing they want, as if they were deprived and starved and now they're over indulgent as adults and shame those who weren't deprived or shamed.
Sex is neutral and a natural biological part of being human. There's nothing wrong with it, but it's also not the end all be all of human existence -- there's more to life than meaningless sex.
Sex is just ...sex.
I'm tired of men who can have all the sex in the world without becoming pregnant putting judgment on women, blaming women for having sex. The whole virgin / whore paradigm is insane, especially since it seems like men are conveniently off the hook for sexual shame while they go around raping everyone.
On the flip side, I'm also tired of people shaming / accusing each other of being vanilla just because they don't need whips and bloody hooks to enjoy sex. Both look like shame to me. Both stem from religious shame gone haywire, to the point where people can't enjoy sex unless they're being tortured or punished like the Catholic Inquisition or being nailed naked to a cross, or being the abuser of the "naughty" person...
It all seems very Christian to me. I think that's why neither extreme appeals to me very much, and partly why I've lost interest in sex, because the sexual partners that made me lose interest were Christian, or atheists who were raised very Christian, and we just have entirely different perspectives about sex.
I did not have the concept of shame beaten into me as a child, so when adults informed by shame in their upbringing put their shit on me, I don't understand what that has to do with me. What is sexual shame? Why make everyone feel bad? And why do they need to inflict bodily injury on women to feel pleasure? It makes no logical sense.
9:09 a.m. - 2021-04-08